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hb46785 — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 13:44:31 +0000

I have decided to perhaps keep this blog. It makes you feel like you can say anything. I am disappointed in the progress my husband is making, he had another stroke and they told him they can’t fix the problem, but they have given him a ton of blood thinners to prevent another stroke. I know it is petty but he seems to be sinking into apathy and I find it irritating. I am as supportive as I can be, but self pity in anyone is unattractive, but especially in the person who is suppose to be helping me toward our mutual goals. I take him to doctor appointments and try to be supportive but I may not be the person I thought I was, because I am resentful and irritable with his constant worrying. I know how horrible this sounds without a doubt, but it is how I feel.

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hb46785 — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:30:54 +0000

Well we were asked to give the boy my daughter likes a fifth chance. I don’t want to but where do you go? My husband is home from the hospital and oh brother. My mother had him stay at her house so she could take care of him. Kind of petty but it irritated me. I think my daughters should be able to take care of his simple needs and step up more. I am also irritated because he let her. I like writing on this becasue nobody reads it so it is kind of like a diary. My father had a stroke 7 years ago and I think he would have made better progress were my mother to have let him be more independent. I believe to take care of the things others can do for themselves, diminishes the other person. I think that is why I agree with many feminist values. I do have some differing values because I do not mind having a door opened for me.

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hb46785 — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 02:58:41 +0000

My husband had a stroke recently and was not expected to survive. He made it through this entire disaster without any long term effects. I was telling a friend who visited us at the hospital this amazing news and she asked me “do you think you’ll appreciate him more?” What? I appreciated him before. I am a little annoyed by the women who find the fact that my husband does housework and took care of his kids, because he is their father, as doing extra. Why do they think that it comes from a lack of appreciation on my part. Perhaps it is the appreciation on his part that has him doing these things. I never really let being a father be an option. Dad’s don’t babysit they take care of their children. I work so I do my share and he does his. I go to school so he does have more household chores. Why do women feel the need to judge the women harshly if the man does what a man should do?

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hb46785 — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 02:53:42 +0000

I have a great family. I chose my husband because I knew he would be great. I knew he would be a good father and husband. I dated him for two years and saw the potential in him. I knew what I didn’t want and that was the man my father was to his family. I wanted someone who put us first and didn’t value a son more than daughters. I have seen though that the legacy is not continuing. My oldest daughter continues to be enthralled with a boy who has none of these qualities. Do you think it is heredity or lack of knowledge. This boy is unable to put her first because he is already first in his world. I will continue this discussion on the next post.

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hb46785 — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 16:24:31 +0000

In the chapter concerning reproductive rights, I am not a supporter of abortion…for me. I would never think it is my right to tell anyone else to do whatever they want with their body. I do not believe telling someone that they must raise a child they are not prepared for either financially or emotionally would benefit anyone. I am unsure where these perfect people come from. And I am hardcore never going to have an abortion…but wow…to misinform someone to ensure they continue with their unplanned pregnancy is appalling. It has been proven the abstinance only idea does not work…so move on to providing information and birth control…something that is proven to work. If more parents took this route less children would have to make these hard almost impossible decisions. Do some women regret their decision, I would bet they do. We all look back and regret some decisions and learn to live with them.

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hb46785 — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 14:00:05 +0000

I have recently noticed a trend in my friends that has them focusing on their body image as they get older. I am amazed at the amount of money these people are spending between personal trainers and plastic surgery. I have seen a trend that women are so focused on their body image that is where their self esteem comes from. Have you noticed that is the only value some women place on themselves. Not their hearts or minds but how well they fill out a bra and if a guy will buy them a drink in a bar. The thing is these women are so much more…is it the men who have done this or are we doing this to ourselves? Men value looks we all know this…but why do we women propogate this problem.

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hb46785 — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:40:50 +0000

wonderful, as I fight the authority, a bunch of middle age men who make up our school board, I am now realizing how many people really value a penis. My husband went to the superintendent of our school system and defended me. Why? I am so annoyed with him. I did not need to be defended. My goal was to help the kids in our community who need positions attain those positions. To get more funding for teachers…and I haven’t even told the superintendent that, and I have my husbands defending me. I don’t even understand why he thought that was a good idea. I defend myself and my actions did not need to be defended. I wanted to run for school board but who is going to listen to a woman who needs her husband to defend her. I cannot get him to see why this bothers me so much. I have women who think it is “sweet”. Does this not make me look as though I cannot defend myself. Does it not appear that I need my husband to defend me? How can people ask me to speak for them if my husband is speaking for me. This is the first time in 20 years he has done something like this and let’s hope it is the last.

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hb46785 — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 16:50:18 +0000

Well I fought authority and wow did they win. I was publicly chastised by a group of middle aged men who consist of our school board. I dared to say the superintendent who has a “servants heart” was being obstructive when it came to allowing children in our area to overcome their social standing and financial situations. What started all the mess was I started attending school board meetings to see what was up. At the meetings we learned they were buying new computers for the school system. One board member, who is not appreciated by the board brought up the fact that perhaps the computers could be given to the children in the community…worthy cause right? Well he was dismissed immediately by the superintendent and no other board members were interested in obtaining this lofty goal. So I talked to the superintendent who waffled back and forth on the issue and we went to a petition drive. We ended up with the computers so our next project was to attach the hiring policies for summer maintenence. He hired his son and various school board members children and people associated with the school system and he refused to change that policy and incorporate need based as part of his criteria for hiring…this was going to go to another petition drive when we thought we’ll see if we can’t get his notice by starting one to not renew his contract…boy did we get his attention after 350 signatures. He did not lose his job but he did rally enough employees and their families…not the majority of employees but enough…to make it look as though we were a minority and they impuned our petition with their nastiness, one man stood up and said I had my values and ethics upside down. Good times…but I did get their attention…

ugh…my husband…really

hb46785 — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 01:59:57 +0000

I don’t know if I have mentioned this but I am doing a petition drive to have our school board replace our superintendent because in essense he is not a community minded player. I come from a very small town in Indiana where I grew up and now if not everybody, pretty much I know about everybody. I recently decided to spend my summer seeing how much one independent group could do for a community. We got 91 computers to families who needed them, the school was going to throw them away because they were replacing them. This was actually a big deal because the superintendent had soo many excuses about why this could not be done. The next issue came from a hiring policy that had him hiring his high school son for summer maintenance and other school board members kids and administration kids while we have kids who really could use the job to help their families. The thing that has my goat is one of the comments meant to hurt our cause was this, “her husband called the superintendent and apologized for her behavior”. Really, in this day and age. My husband didn’t do this but even if he had (I probably would have killed him), buy why would anyone care? If my husband’s opinion and mine differ is it likely that would be a valued argument to keep a poor superintendent? Because I am a woman the worst thing to be said is I don’t have the support of my husband? I was initially so angry, now I am thinking why would anyone think this is of value?

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hb46785 — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 19:37:34 +0000

Just Checking my new blog…